Sunday, September 27, 2009

"Divorce takes health toll that remarriage can't heal, study shows"


By Madison ParkCNN

(CNN) -- Divorce causes more than bitterness and broken hearts. The trauma of a split can leave long-lasting effects on mental and physical health that remarriage might not repair, according to research released this week.

Research shows health differences between people who are married and those who have gone through a divorce.

"People who lose a marriage take such damage to their health," said Linda Waite, a sociologist at the University of Chicago in Illinois.
Waite and co-author Mary Elizabeth Hughes, of Johns Hopkins Bloomberg School of Public Health, found that divorced or widowed people have 20 percent more chronic health conditions such as heart disease, diabetes or cancer than married people. They also have 23 percent more mobility limitations, such as trouble climbing stairs or walking a block.
Their article, published in the Journal of Health and Social Behavior, examined the marital history and health indicators for 8,652 middle-aged people in research funded by the National Institute on Aging. The authors found differences between the overall health of those who remain married and those who divorce.


Almost half of all U.S. marriages end in divorce, according to the National Institutes of Health.


"Losing a marriage or becoming widowed or divorced is extremely stressful," Waite said. "It's financially, sometimes, ruinous. It's socially extremely difficult. What's interesting is if people have done this and remarried, we still see, in their health, the scars or marks -- the damage that was done by this event.
Divorced people "have more chronic conditions, more mobility limitations, rate their health as poorer than people like them in age, race, gender, education who've been married once and are still married," Waite said.
Previous research has suggested that marriage has protective health benefits by providing financial, social and emotional stability.
Married women have more financial security, which means better access to health care and reduced stress, Waite said.


"Married men have better health habits," she said in comparison to single males. "They lead a cleaner, healthier life, and less times in bars and eat better. Women tend to manage men's interactions with the medical system, get him in for colonoscopy and make sure they get flu shot."


Mark Hayward, director of the Population Research Center and a professor of sociology Fellow at the University of Texas at Austin, said spouses check up on each other's needs. They remind each other about when to go see a doctor, a dentist or when to get a medical issue checked out.


"You're making decisions together about your lifestyle and investing in a future together," said Hayward, who was not involved in the latest research. But in a similar study, he found that divorce has a lasting impact on cardiovascular diseases, even after remarriage. His 2006 study, funded by the National Institute on Aging, found that divorced middle-aged women were 60 percent more likely to have cardiovascular disease than middle-aged women who remain married.

"There's no erasure of the effects of divorce," Hayward said. "There is intense stress leading up to divorce, stresses during divorce proceedings. Think of divorce as one of the most intense stressors. It leads to what we call dysregulation [impairment] in key cardiovascular process that may be permanently altered. You're not going back to your original set point."
Both genders suffer irreversible, detrimental effects on their health after losing marriage through a divorce or death of a spouse, according to the findings.


Those who did not remarry after a divorce or a spouse's death showed deficits in mental and physical health. Waite called this the "double whammy" because they don't get the protective effects of marriage and have gone through a "damaging, health-destroying experience."
They had worse health indicators than people who never married and therefore "didn't get the goods and didn't get the bads," Waite said.
People who remarried had better health than those who did not.
"If you loved and lost, did you find love again?" Waite said. "The people who did are doing better." But this group overall showed health deficits compared to those who remained married.

Thursday, September 24, 2009

"Pulling It Down"

The EX Daily Word for September 24, 2009

"Pulling It Down"

2Cor. 10:4 '(For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mightythrough God to the pulling down of strong holds;)'A stronghold is a cave like the one David hid in from his son to protect his life.It's a cave in the mountain where you could hide and then place a rock infront of it to disguise it as the mountain. Once you were in there, no onewould know because the rock looked like the mountain. Well, in the spiritrealm, a stronghold is the same thing. It's a place where the enemy hidesin your mind.

It's a place where he has access to you and can remain inyour life undetected because the area where he hides looks like the rest ofyou. He puts a spiritual rock there to protect himself and make what he isdoing through you look like your personality or your character. So then, webegin to claim it as "our struggle" or "our issue" and he hides in thereprotected by our words (his rock). That's why some Christians struggle withthe same things over and over, because they have claimed it as a part ofthem and cannot see the enemy hiding in there. But God says that ourweapons that he gives us are mighty and can discover where the stronghold isand pull the rock out of it.

This will expose the devil and then he can bedealt with. You cannot deal with an enemy that you cannot see. That's whyit's so important to allow the power of God to pull down these strongholdsand deal with what is hiding in your mind.You are not a liar, you are not a thief. You are not a gossiper, and youare not a slut! You are not a homosexual or a lesbian. You are not abackstabber, and you are not a murderer. You are not lazy and you are not adeadbeat. You are not a bad mother or bad father. You are not a player andyou are not a failure. You are not a bad person.

The stronghold of theenemy needs to be pulled down so you can see that it is the enemy working inyour mind, causing you to accept something that you should not. It's not you, it's the enemy working in you. But today, you must face the fact thatthere is something wrong. That you are tired of dealing with the sameissues year after year, day after day. You must confront the enemy by the Spirit of God and allow God to deal with this stronghold. Open your mouthand confess it, get it out. You don't have to tell everyone, but you doneed to tell yourself.

Acknowledge that there is something wrong and youneed God to deal with it. His power can pull down the stronghold, exposethe enemy and with the power of Holy Ghost, cast him out! You see, a 5 stepprogram, a teaching session, and all that fundamentalists stuff is good, butonly after the fact. Natural methods cannot destroy a spiritual strongholdor yoke. The anointing is what destroys the yoke of bondage according tothe word of God. You must deal with this thing in the spirit realm once andfor all. That way, you can be free. You need deliverance, not a quick fix.You need deliverance, not an excuse. The stronghold must be pulled down andthe enemy must be dealt with. Do not allow him access to your mind anymore.Do not accept his agenda as a character flaw that you have. Accept nothingfrom him. Pull it down and cast him out, and then walk in the victory thatbelongs to you as a believer.

Suggested Reading: 1John 2:27, John 8:36, 2Cor. 10:5
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Thursday, August 13, 2009

Looking at the Other Man in the Mirror.....

Written by Pastor Miles McPherson



The impact of the death of Michael Jackson was felt around the world. People have reacted with shock, tears and dancing in the streets. While allusions to the dark side of Michael's life were put on the back burner during the time of mourning, the tabloids are now full of speculation and allegations that range from drug addiction to murder. This has also been the case with Steve McNair, a former National Football League most valuable player. Although shot by his mistress while he lay asleep on the couch, the quarterback has been praised as a hero and family man.Though we like to remember the accomplishments of a person's public life, it is often the drama of their private lives, the exploits of the “Other Man” in the mirror, that brings us down and can ultimately kill us. The Other Man in the mirror is the version of ourselves no one wants to talk about. He is bent on self-destruction and is determined to discredit the man that the public loves.I will venture to say that while the public Michael Jackson was entertaining us, the Other Man in the mirror was torturing him.We thought he was so beautiful but the Other Man convinced him he was ugly.


Michael gave us so much joy, but the Other Man beat him up inside everyday. Though he generated enough revenue to support a small country, the Other Man tried to bankrupt him. While we watched Michael dance, sing and push creativity past its limits, I wonder if it was the false promises and threats of the Other Man that drove him into the ground. The Other Man isolated Jackson from the people who really loved and wanted to save him. He surrounded Michael with those who catered to the desires of his flaws and ultimately killed him. I doubt that all of the years of hard work, dancing and performing ever gave Michael what he was really looking for. I have a feeling that we, the public, got more out of Michael's life than he did.Some people would say that Michael's fame and riches are what ruined him. But in reality, money doesn't ruin people; it just gives them the option of becoming more of who they really are. Michael's fame and power simply gave the Other Man access to the resources to supply his pain with whatever it begged for.We all have our own version of the Other Man in the mirror, and he has the same agenda as Michael's. He seeks to self-justify, kill and destroy you. When you wish to do good, he talks you out of it. When someone tries to help you, he accuses them of being your enemy.His handiwork in our lives is evident.


Fast forward your secret behaviors, and if it destroys a part of your entire life; chances are it's him. Fast forward your relationships, and see where you end up.Your funeral is coming, and let me tell you, the Other Man is planning it. Your friends and family will speak well of you, but unless you deal with him now and die on your terms, the Other Man will be claiming “mission accomplished.”If you don't deal with him now, you may be his next victim.Who is your Other Man?

Wednesday, August 12, 2009

Devotional: It's Hard Being A Child of God, or is it?


It’s Hard Being A Child of God, or is it?
Written by Abena

Melanie woke up feeling down for no apparent reason. She just felt today is not going to be a good day. There is evil running rampant in the world and I feel helpless; and there is sin in my own life that does not seem to want to go away! Melanie thought to herself, “I have prayed and prayed but the sin in the world and in my life seems to get worse.” I try to stop sinning but the harder I try the more I fail, Lord help me!………..Do you ever feel this way?

As Christians, we are called to be the salt of the earth and the first thing that we have to realize is that we have to operate in the strength of God, not our own. Our own strength will get warn down minute by minute……but God’s strength never weakens. We have to allow the Holy Spirit to be our guide, our counselor, and the umpire of our soul. One of my biggest struggles being a Christian is truly letting God handle the day to day stressors that invade my thoughts. But, each day I continue to learn that when the bible says to cast my cares onto Jesus, that is what it really means. I was talking to a friend two days ago and I said to her, “you know casting your cares is like throwing something in the trash; If you throw something in the trash, are you going to sit and think about it and then go digging back into the trash for it?” No, none of us want to do that, because we know the trash is filthy.

Well, what God expects from us is when we cast our cares onto Him we have to trust Him completely and not go back digging out our sin, worries, fear, or whatever it may be for you, God wants us to trust Him with all of our thoughts, sins, and cares! Why is it so important to cast your cares onto God? I am glad you asked that question…..Mark 4:19 (KJV) says, "And the cares of this world, and the deceitfulness of riches, and the lusts of other things entering in, choke the word, and it becometh unfruitful." Now do we want to become unfruitful? Absolutely not, but some of us are already there, struggling to get back into the will of God.

So if you are struggling today, please let today be the first day of many days that you surrender your thoughts, will, attitude, sin, fear, doubt, and worries to a God who loves you unconditionally. Jesus wants to set us free, He came that we may have life and have it more abundantly, but we have to trust Him and surrender our life over to Him daily.

Pray this today and every day: Lord, I present my body to You today as a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to you God, which is my reasonable service. Please allow Your spirit to direct me so that I will not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of my mind to the Word of God, so that I may establish Your kingdom on this earth, in the name of Jesus, amen.

Brought to you by His Chosen Vessel Ministry
Written by Abena
http://www.livelovepray05.blogspot.com

©2009 Abena

Daily Word: Spiritual Dieting

The EX Daily Word for August 12, 2009

Spiritual Dieting

John 6:35 And Jesus said unto them, I am the bread of life: he that cometh to me shall never hunger; and he that believeth on me shall never thirst.

No one likes dieting People only like the end the result of it, but the sacrifice can be rough for many. Especially if you have lived your whole life eating what you want, whenever you want, it gets very hard to cut back and be disciplined by a diet. But if you keep eating any and everything whenever you want, you will begin to see it on your body and feel it in your heart. You will then take on a different appearance and become obese. And then, your health will be affected and you will be forced to eat better and chose some sort of diet plan or you will die. Well, this is a good example of how we are as believers sometimes with spiritual junk food.

There are so many preachers out there and so many churches abroad that teach and preach spiritual junk food. Many do not even offer the sincere milk of the Word to babes. Their babes are starving from lack of nutrition and their older saints are spiritually dumb because there is no real Word taught. They sit and digest junk on a regular basis. Sermons that are flesh driven and self promoting. Messages that only empower the flesh yet deny the Spirit of God and the power to be set apart and changed. Music that is tainted with worldliness and secularized to the point of no longer glorifying God, but it puts on a fleshly show. And if you look closely in these audiences, you will see overweight and sick folks! Not physically, but spiritually overweight, to the point where they cannot walk right or even do for themselves or others. They are full of junk and spiritually obese,, living fat and eating any and everything that is fed to them. They are sick! Sin, curses, witchcraft, you name it, they are feasting on it every time they get the chance. Well, it's time for a diet my friends. It's time to turn off some of that Christian TV preaching and sort through it to find what really is needed for your spiritual growth. It's time to sift through that music you listen to, so you can see what is full of "sugar" and what has real nutritional value! It's time to analyze your church to see if those sermons you are getting is junk food, which tastes great but is not good for you, or is it God given which will nourish your spirit man and cause good growth and soul prosperity. It's time to analyze this stuff my friend. If in the spirit realm, your heart is attacked, your breath is short, and your are not happy with your shape and appearance, then it's time to diet. Cut back on the junk and eat some good, God centered food from the Word. You will then grow in the manner God desires and you will not be out of shape any longer.

Suggested Reading: 1Pet. 2:2, 2Tim. 4:3, 1Tim. 6:3, Rev. 2:14

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Thursday, August 6, 2009

Marriage: "Best Friends"

The EX Daily Word for August 6, 2009

Marriage Week Pt. 4 "Best Friends"

Eph. 5:31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and
shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.

Being unhappy with yourself can cause a lot of marital problems.
Especially when it is misguided or your unhappiness is misdirected. We
sometimes are ashamed to talk to our spouses about these types of
things because we feel like it belittles us or makes us look
"undesirable" or "problem plagued" but to tell the truth, we look more
undesirable when we hold things in and shut our spouses out. If you
cannot talk to your spouse about everything, then something is wrong.
There should be a bond there that says "you and I are one, so whatever
i am, you are" That's the way God intended for a marriage to be. If you
have hang ups about sharing things with your spouse, then your
relationship is in trouble. There should be no one closer to you than
the one you are married to. You should be able to talk about
everything. Even things that make you feel uncomfortable or
embarrassed. That's why your spouse should always be your best friend.
Not just someone to sleep with, eat with, or go out with when you want
to have fun. But your very dearest friend should be the one that knows
you the best.

Your best friend, if it's not your spouse, is holding a position in
your life that belongs to the person you are married to. The secrets
of your heart must be shared with the one you are married to before you
ever think about talking to anyone else. If you want a successful
marriage, then you have to make some changes. If you want the hand of
God on your life men, then you have to first honor your wife. If you
want to be blessed of God women, then you must first submit to your
husband. These are the rules and if you want to get to that next level
in your life, take care of your spouse. God honors your covenant with
the person you married and they deserve to be your best friend, your
lover, and your confidant! If you have trouble being real with your
spouse or if you are afraid to open up because of things that happened
in the past, pray to God for his power to intervene. God can step in
and give you boldness and he can also prepare the heart of your spouse
so that they can receive you. God is pro-marriage and he will do what
you need him to in order to secure your relationship. After all, your
marriage is a reflection of him and he wants you reflecting his glory
in all that you do.

Suggested Reading: Heb. 13:4, 1Cor. 7:10, 1Cor. 7:33, 1Cor. 7:34

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Wednesday, July 29, 2009

How To Get Comfortable with God

How to Get Comfortable with God - NEW!

by Joyce Meyer

Do you know how much God loves you?

God proved His love for us through His Son, Jesus, who died for our sins. But, for some reason, it’s hard to carry on a conversation with Him. We can be so distant. I bet God really gets a kick out of how some of us talk to Him. We can be so serious and formal. “Oh, Lord Most Higheth! Howeth my heart doth longest for Thee!” We need to get comfortable with God. I don’t mean disrespectful, but we should know that He loves us and that we don’t have to be afraid of Him.

The Importance of Spending Time with God First Corinthians 8:6 says that God created us to live for Him He’s given us the gift of life and He wants us to enjoy it! You can have a joyful, fulfilling life by living in close, personal relationship with God. But in order to get there, you have to spend time with Him. God doesn’t want to just be the button we push when we have an emergency. Whether we know it or not, without God, we are always in an emergency. Without Him operating in our lives, helping and protecting us, there isn’t one of us who knows one iota about anything we’re doing!

Unlimited Time, Unlimited Blessings

You and I can spend as much time as we want with God. We have an open invitation to invite the Creator of the universe into our life each day. We get to speak to Him personally and read the book of instruction that holds the answers to everything in life. The devil doesn’t like that. That’s why he works so hard to tell us that God doesn’t want to be around us if we’re not perfect. I’ve got a news flash: We aren’t ever going to be perfect. That’s why Jesus went to the cross for us! We can go to our heavenly Father as often as we like and He will never get tired of us coming.

The Bible says we can come boldly before God fellowship with Him, and have our needs met. James 4:8 says, Draw near to God and He will draw near to you. (NASB) God the Father longs to fellowship with you. The moment you accepted Christ into your heart, God made His home in you. So kick up your feet, get cozy and enjoy the company.

Thursday, July 9, 2009

God's is not mad at you, He's mad about you!

God is not mad at you, He’s mad about you!”

Written by Sister Abena aka Chosen Vessel

There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit. Romans 8:1 When you read the scripture above do you think it applies to you? If you are born-again, and you are not walking after the flesh but after the Spirit, then guess what, this scripture is screaming your name. Condemnation will destroy you if you let it. Webster’s dictionary defines condemnation as a disapprobation; an expression of strong disapproval; pronouncing as wrong or morally culpable. Purposely God has scripture after scripture in His holy Word reminding us that we are forgiven (1 John 1:9), we are set free (John 8:36), we are loved (1 John 4:9-11) and I can go on and on, yet we still feel unworthy, guilty, doubtful, worthless, hopeless, and the big one FEARFUL.

Did you know that every negative emotion or thought that you feel about yourself God is saying the opposite about you? Did you know that not only does He love you when you are walking after the Spirit but He loves you just the same when you fail to surrender to His will? Beloved, please never, ever question Gods love for you, because His love for you is non-negotiable. He loves you with an everlasting love that you cannot even comprehend. Now, does the Bible stating that God loves you unconditionally mean He does not care what you do or how you live your life? Absolutely not! Do not be deceived by the devil and believe that God does not care how you live your life, for Romans 6:14 says that for sin shall not have dominion over you, for you are not under the law but under grace.

Ok, lets move to the next verse and read the entire passage, because if we stop there we may fool ourselves to think it is ok to sin because we are under grace, but Romans 6:15 goes on to say, what then? Shall we sin because we are not under the law but under grace? Certainly not! Do you not know that to whom you present yourselves slaves to obey, you are that one’s slaves whom you obey, whether of sin leading to death, or of obedience leading to righteousness? Please tell me child of God, what is the better choice, sin leading to death or obedience leading to righteousness? I think we would all answer this question the same way. But I want to take it one step further and take a look at Galatians 6:7-8 " Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap. For he that soweth to his flesh shall reap corruption; but he that soweth to the Spirit shall of the Spirit reap life everlasting." This is where the trick of the enemy of your soul can come in and have you deceived to believe that since you are born-again this does not apply to you. But, do not be deceived child of God, you are loved and forgiven but there are, I repeat, there are consequences for your sins.

Sowing and Reaping works both ways.I submit to you that John 10:10 says that, “The thief (devil) cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy but I (Jesus) am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly. So take a hold of the promises that God has made to you from His heart to yours and live the abundant life that He so desires you to live. The first step is to understand that you are loved by God with an everlasting love and the second step is for you to make a choice to obey and receive the blessings that are set aside for those that obey Gods holy word. If you want supernatural blessings to overtake you, then you have to make a conscious decision to obey Gods word and become a slave of righteousness (Romans 6:18).

Pray this: Lord, please help me to see myself through Your eyes and not my own eyes because sometimes my eyes are tainted. Help me experience Your love like never before. I pray that You allow Your Spirit to work in me each day and enable me to walk after the Spirit and not the flesh so that I can experience and embrace the abundant life that You have already made available to me. In the mighty name of Jesus I pray, amen.Brought to you by His Chosen Vessel Ministry

Written by Sister Abena

Wednesday, June 3, 2009

Daily Word: "Intimacy with God Part 1"


Daily Word: "Intimacy with God Part 1:

Saturday, May 30, 2009

Devotional: Do It Afraid!

Do It Afraid by Joyce Meyer
Fear! Has it ever been a problem for you, holding you back from moving into areas that could enrich your own life and the lives of others? There is a solution. One of the many benefits available to Christians is freedom from fear. When we avoid making changes or confronting issues in our lives because of fear or dread, we need to remember that God has promised to go before us and bring us through victoriously as we obey Him.
When we’re facing a job interview, for example, instead of being afraid that we’ll make a bad impression and fail to get the position, we need to ask God to prepare the heart and mind of the interviewer and help us present ourselves in the very best light. When God "prepares the way," we can trust that whatever happens will turn out for our good according to His perfect plan for us.
The Bible tells of a man named Abram who trusted God in spite of his own personal fear. Now...the Lord said to Abram, Go for yourself [for your own advantage] away from your country, from your relatives and your father's house, to the land that I will show you (Genesis 12:1). How would you feel if God told you to leave your home, your family and everything that is familiar and comfortable and head out to an unknown destination? Full of fear? That’s precisely the challenge Abram faced—and it frightened him. But God's words to him were, "Fear not." It’s the same message He gave to Joshua when He called him to lead the children of Israel to take the land He had promised to give them as their inheritance (see Joshua 1:6-9). And to all who set out to follow God's plan today, He says, "Fear not." Elisabeth Elliot, whose husband was killed along with four other missionaries in Ecuador, says that her life was completely controlled by fear. Every time she started to step out to minister, fear stopped her. Then a friend told her something that set her free. Her friend said, "Why don't you do it afraid?" Elisabeth listened and took that advice. Together with Rachel Saint, the sister of one of the murdered missionaries, they went on to evangelize the Indian tribes of Ecuador, including the very people who had killed their loved ones.
Many times we think we should wait to do something until we are no longer afraid, but if we did that, we’d probably accomplish very little for God, for others, or even for ourselves. Both Abram and Joshua had to step out in faith and obedience to God and do what He had commanded them to do—even though they were afraid. I believe the words fear not simply mean don't run. So the solution to fear is simple: Rather than bowing our knee and giving in to it, we must stand firm against it, knowing that God has gone before us and prepared the way. This is precisely what God wants us to do. Even if our mouth is dry and our knees are shaking, we need to keep asking God to strengthen us. We need to determine that our lives are not going to be ruled by fear but by the Word of God. As we saw before in Genesis, God gave Abram a tall order. He said, "Pack up and leave everyone you know and everything you’re comfortable with and go to a place I will show you." If Abram had bowed his knee to fear, he never would’ve fulfilled his destiny to become all God created him to be—the father of many nations. In the same way, if Joshua hadn’t overcome his fear and been obedient to God's command to lead His people into the Promised Land, they never would’ve enjoyed all that God had prepared for them. Giving in to fear alters God's best plan for your life. So use the power of God's Word to do what He wants you to do...even if you have to do it afraid! The rewards are great.